First Date Behaviour
100 conversation cards about what counts as acceptable — and what counts as a red flag — on a first date.
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First Date Behaviour is a free deck of 100 conversation cards that puts concrete first-date situations on the table — who pays, checking your phone mid-date, bringing up an ex — and makes both people’s positions visible. Played by two, over coffee or a first dinner.
- Players
- 2 people
- Length
- 20–40 minutes
- Where it works
- First dates, cafés, first dinners
- Card count
- 100 question cards
First dates are the moments when both people are on their most careful behaviour: nobody wants to ask too much, and nobody wants to stay on the surface either. This deck of conversation cards exists to break that deadlock. Each card puts one concrete first-date situation on the table and makes both positions visible.
Questions start with classics like who picks up the bill, then move into contested territory: checking your phone, texting a friend mid-date, bringing up an ex, kissing on the first date. How you answer carries as much signal as what you answer — the question you dodge says as much as the one you take.
The deck is built for couples in the dating phase, two people who just met, and anyone who wants an early answer to “are we on the same page?” Put the phone on the table over coffee or dinner and take turns drawing a card.
Who is it for?
- First dates
- Early dating
- Newly matched couples
- One-on-one talks
Sample questions from this set
- 01Who should pick up the bill on a first date?
- 02What do you think if your date checks their phone mid-conversation?
- 03Is it fine to bring up past relationships on a first date?
- 04Texting a friend “how is it going” during the date: normal or not?
- 05Is kissing on the first date too soon for you?
Samples are drawn from the cards in this set. In the app all cards come up in random order.
Ready to play this set?
Download Beni Tanı, pick the card set, and put the phone on the table.
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