Friendship14 August 20265 min read

The Best Friend Test: How Well Do You Actually Know Each Other?

A 50-question test of how well two friends know each other — how to play, how to score, and what a low score actually means.

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Short answer

The best friend test has two people answer questions about each other separately and compare. Its value is not in the score but in the mismatches: every wrong answer is either outdated information or a subject never discussed. This piece has the 50-question test, the scoring, how to play it, and why a low score is not a bad sign. Short answer: discuss the wrong answers, not the score.

How to play

Two people sit facing each other. The questions are read in turn, and each one does two things: one person gives their own answer while the other guesses what it will be.

A correct guess scores a point. Then the roles swap and the same question runs the other way. After fifty questions there are two scores: how well you know them, and how well they know you.

Those two scores commonly differ, and on its own that means little — it usually reflects who has told the other more.

1. Everyday questions

The first set is easy. Two people who have known each other a while get most of these.

01What is their favourite food?
02Coffee or tea?
03Morning person or night person?
04Which app do they open most?
05What did they last watch?
06What music do they listen to?
07How do they like to dress?
08How do they spend weekends?
09Which chore do they hate most?
10What do they spend the most money on?
11What time do they sleep?
12Do they exercise, and how?
13Where did they last go on holiday?
14Which season do they prefer?
15How late do they run?

2. Character questions

The second set gets harder. These are known by observation rather than by being told.

01When angry, do they go quiet or talk?
02Do they close an argument immediately or let it sit?
03How much time alone do they need?
04Do they struggle to ask for help?
05Do they take the risk or the safe option?
06Do they decide fast or think it through?
07Do they take criticism personally?
08Are they easier in a crowd or a small group?
09Do they plan or let things happen?
10Do they show feelings or keep them in?
11Do they struggle to say no?
12Are they harder on themselves or on others?
13Do they talk to new people easily?
14Do they say so when they dislike something?
15Do they keep secrets?

3. Questions about the past

The third set tests stories you think you know. The wrong answers here usually generate the most conversation.

01What did they want to be as a child?
02What was their first job?
03Where have they lived longest?
04Who in their family are they most like?
05Which decision changed their life most?
06What frightened them most when they were young?
07What was the first thing they did entirely alone?
08What was their hardest period?
09Which friendship did they lose?
10Who supported them most?
11What kind of student were they?
12Which achievement went unnoticed?
13What did they think when they first met you?
14Which ambition did they give up?
15When did their view of themselves change?

4. Questions about right now

The last set gets answered wrong most often, for a simple reason: these things never come up.

01What is on their mind most at the moment?
02What do they need right now?
03What has been wearing them out?
04What changed for them this year?
05What are they avoiding?
06Where do they want to be in five years?
07What do they want help with but will not ask for?
08What do they think they got right this year?

Scoring, and what a low score means

Scoring is simple: a point per correct guess out of fifty. But the score is the least interesting part.

The information is in the wrong answers. Every one is either outdated — the person changed and it went unnoticed — or a subject that has never been discussed.

Which is why a low score is not a bad sign, especially in the last set. Most long friendships never ask updating questions, and the test makes that visible.

01Discuss the wrong answers, not the score.
02Follow every wrong answer with "when did that change".
03The mistakes in the last set are the valuable ones.
04Repeat the test in a year; how much the answers moved is the real result.

Playing it as a group

The test is built for two, but a group version works: ask a question about one person, have everyone write their guess, and let that person give the real answer. Most correct guesses wins.

Character and past questions work well in a group; the present-tense set stays shallow in a crowd and opens far more in a conversation between two.

The Gossip Cauldron deck is built on this guessing mechanic and works with groups who have known each other for years. The Best Liar Wins suits the version with bluffing added.

Frequently asked questions

How do you play the best friend test?

One person gives their own answer while the other guesses it; a correct guess scores. Then the roles swap. At the end there are two separate scores — how well each of you knows the other.

Is a low score a bad sign?

No. Every wrong answer is either outdated information or a subject never discussed, and both are fixable. Mistakes in the present-tense set are especially common, because long friendships almost never ask updating questions.

What does it mean if the two scores differ?

Usually it reflects who has told the other more, not a difference in closeness. Someone who shares more is easier to guess, which on its own means little.

Can it be played in a group?

Yes: ask a question about one person, everyone writes a guess, and that person gives the real answer. Character and past questions work well in a group; present-tense ones stay shallow in a crowd.

Is there any point playing it twice?

That is the most useful part. Repeated a year later, it shows which answers changed — far more informative than a single score.

Card sets mentioned in this post

The Gossip Pot

Starts with light banter, ends in heavy confessions. 100 gossip cards for close friend groups.

Best Liar Wins

The card gives the topic, you tell the story, the group guesses true or false. A 100-card party game.

Let’s Meet Again #1

100 question cards that reintroduce you to someone you thought you knew. Opens with questions anyone can answer, ends somewhere nobody expected.

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