Friendship30 August 20265 min read

How Well Do You Know Me? 50 Questions for a Group Quiz

Fifty questions for a group "how well do you know me" quiz, in four sets: daily habits, backstory, preferences, and the ones only a close friend gets right.

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Short answer

A "how well do you know me" quiz is played with one person as the subject: they write down their own answers while everyone else guesses, and the score is the number of correct guesses. What makes it work is the type of question, not its difficulty — birthdays and star signs are memorised facts that separate nobody, while habits learned by observation separate everyone. This piece has 50 questions in four sets: daily habits, backstory, preferences, and the ones only someone close will get. Short answer: ask observation questions rather than trivia, and cap it at 15-20 questions per person.

How the quiz works

The setup is simple. One person is the subject and writes down their own answers. Everyone else guesses those answers. Whoever gets the most right wins the round.

There are two ways to run it. Written: everyone puts their guesses on paper and you compare at the end. Spoken: guesses go round the table out loud and the subject reveals the answer each time. The spoken version is faster and gets far more out of the table.

Question count matters. Attention drops after about twenty and the guesses go random; 15 to 20 questions is one clean round.

01One person is the subject and writes their own answers.
02Everyone else guesses the same questions.
03One point per correct guess.
0415 to 20 questions per round.
05Rotate so everyone gets a turn as the subject.

What makes a good question

The commonest mistake is asking things that can be memorised. Birthdays, hometowns and star signs are either public knowledge or a scroll away, and they measure nothing about who actually knows the person.

The questions that separate people are the ones learned by observation. How someone takes their coffee, or what they do when they're tired, is only known by people who spend time in the room.

The second test is whether there's a single answer. "Favourite film" is a bad question because the subject answers differently each time they're asked. "How many times have you rewatched it" asks for something fixed.

01Skip trivia: birthdays, star signs, hometowns.
02Ask about observable things: habits, reactions, routines.
03The answer should be fixed, not mood-dependent.
04Don't ask anything that corners the subject.
05The whole group shouldn't already know the answer.

Daily habit questions

The best separator in the set. These answers only come from time spent together.

01What's the first thing they do after waking up?
02How do they take their coffee?
03Is their phone on silent or vibrate?
04What do they reach for first at a meal?
05How many times do they snooze the alarm?
06Which hand do they use most?
07When they're tired, do they talk or go quiet?
08Where do they want to sit in a cinema?
09Staying in or going out — which wins?
10Do they run late or arrive early?
11Do they reply to messages straight away or later?
12Which app eats most of their screen time?
13What's their sleep pattern actually like?
14Do they look at their phone while walking?
15Do they write a shopping list?

Backstory questions

This set measures time known rather than time observed. The answers have to have been told to you.

01What frightened them most as a child?
02What was their first job?
03Which city have they lived in longest?
04What was their favourite subject at school?
05Have they ever changed their hair colour?
06When did they last say they cried?
07Who in their family do they think they resemble?
08What's the biggest regret they've mentioned?
09How many times have they moved house?
10What was their first phone?
11Do they remember a favourite teacher?
12What job did they try and abandon?
13What did they want to be as a child?
14What was the first gig they went to?
15Which friendship do they miss most?

Preference questions

For fast rounds. These look easy to guess and the group gets them wrong constantly.

01Sea or mountains?
02Sweet or savoury?
03Morning person or night person?
04Crowds or quiet?
05Books or series?
06Planned or spontaneous?
07Phone call or text?
08Travelling alone or with people?
09Cats or dogs?
10City or countryside?

The ones only a close friend gets

The last round. This is where the group genuinely separates, because these answers need long acquaintance.

01How can you tell when they're angry?
02What do they never tell anyone?
03What are they easily talked into?
04What makes them laugh hardest?
05How do they handle a compliment?
06In what situation do they go silent?
07Who are they wary of?
08What do they say when they don't want to do something?
09What upsets them without showing?
10Which of their own habits bothers them most?

What to do when the quiz ends

The value isn't in the scores, it's in what opens up afterwards. "I had no idea" usually starts a longer conversation than the quiz itself.

Going back to the most-missed question works well: getting the subject to answer it properly, at length, shows exactly where the gap the quiz measured came from.

That's also where a written list runs out. Past twenty questions the person reading them is out of the game, and the remaining questions either repeat or don't fit the table. A ready-made deck keeps the order for you: The Gossip Pot is built for rounds where a group talks about each other, Best Liar Wins suits bluffers, and Lose-Lose forces a choice between two bad options.

Frequently asked questions

How many questions should the quiz have?

Fifteen to twenty per round. Longer than that and attention drifts, guesses go random, and the result stops measuring anything. For an evening where everybody takes a turn as subject, fifteen each is about right.

Does the quiz actually measure closeness?

It measures time spent together, not closeness. Observation questions show who has been in the room most, which isn't always the same as who is closest. It works as a game and causes arguments when treated as a verdict.

Which questions should be left out?

Relationship history, family matters and money. Nobody answers those honestly at a crowded table, so the question is wasted and the subject is put on the spot. With people who've just met, skip the last set entirely.

How many people can play?

Three at minimum, four to eight at its best — everyone gets a turn as subject and the scores actually spread. With bigger groups, cap it at two rounds so the format doesn't outstay its welcome.

Can it be played remotely?

Yes. On a video call the subject writes their answers privately and everyone guesses in turn. The written version works in a group chat too, though guesses have to be sent at the same time or the early answers steer the later ones.

Card sets mentioned in this post

The Gossip Pot

Starts with light banter, ends in heavy confessions. 100 gossip cards for close friend groups.

Best Liar Wins

The card gives the topic, you tell the story, the group guesses true or false. A 100-card party game.

Lose-Lose

Two bad options, one decision. 100 cards of impossible choices.

Let’s Meet Again #1

100 question cards that reintroduce you to someone you thought you knew. Opens with questions anyone can answer, ends somewhere nobody expected.

Let’s Meet Again #2

A premium 100-card deck that asks not “what are you like” but “what made you this way”. Starts easy, deepens slowly.

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